6 years and 1 day

20 September 2016

So today, me and Mani realised that our 6th Wedding Anniversary....was yesterday.  We have never missed an anniversary and as soon as he mentioned it to me this evening I remember just as I was falling asleep last night I thought "the 19th was today, why does that date seem so familiar to me....oh yes our wedding anniversary"....and then I think I fell asleep.  I woke up this morning and I totally forgot I had had that thought.  Haha, quite hilarious actually.

We aren't and never really have been the whole card, flowers, gifts type of couple.  It just doesn't bother us.  We would prefer to go away for the weekend or out for lunch or a treat.  So we are not bothered at all.  But wow, 6 years has flown.  I have said this before and I will say it again and again.  Time seems to speed up the older you get. 

We are in the thick of parenthood at the moment.  We are lacking sleep, any type of alone time and almost feel like we are just scraping by.  Taking each day as it comes and fighting through it in survival mode.

But we are beginning to see a tiny, teeny little light - we are slowly trudging through the baby phase and what I like to call "the shit show" - the show where you have two kids and don't know what day it is really or what you are doing.  You are just parenting, trying to do the right thing, trying to bring up decent kids.  In amongst the tantrums, bath times, bottles, snacks, outings, parties, routines, meal times you have moments together - steal kisses, hold hands, smile knowingly.  But they are fleeting.  You know that each other are there but your marriage is a side show - the shit show is the one in the lime light at the moment but that's OK.  
It has gotta end some time and for us, I think that will be in the next 6 months.

We often - well, when we can, chat about life before kids.  
We reminisce about the things we miss.  
Lazy weekends, watching TV, just popping to the shops, watching a movie with no interruptions, enjoying cups of tea and just leading a peaceful life.

But guys, in all honesty.  We wouldn't change one thing.  This is a phase of our life that will not last forever.  It is the chaotic phase where you don't have a life.  Yes, we miss our freedom, the peace, being able to lie in bed past 7am.  
But this is life, it is what it is when you have small kids.  
And our marriage is slowly getting back to normal.  It definitely takes a side seat though and I think it is just about making sure you keep on communicating.  You listen, you care, you notice each other.  
Give those hugs, make those cups of tea.  Enjoy the quiet moments together and really be with each other.  
Be compassionate.  It is the little things that make the most impact for us.  Like with anything in life I suppose.

So happy 6 years to my darling, wonderful husband.  
Thank you for being my rock.  
Thank you for being an awesome, doting and FUN father to our boys.  
Thank you for making me tea.  
Thank you for supporting me in all my dreams, hopes and wishes.  
Thank you for always being relaxed and easy going and nudging me to do the same.  

You are my life, my love, my everything.  
And I wouldn't change one thing.

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